The disrespect thread

[Superwomanchick]

I had an encounter the other day that infuriated me and it made me think that i'm sure this kind of thing happens a lot. When people completely disrespect your car.

I was sitting in a grocery store parking lot talking to my bf. I was already upset because some creepy guys were following me but I had lost them. I always park away from other cars because I don't like door dings.

So i'm sitting there and I see this older man pull up next to me in an 80's mercedes wagon. I'm watching him in my side mirror when I see him swing his door out with such force it shook my car. I won't lie my vision got a little red after that. I get out and ask him if he really just door dinged my car. He started to tell me he was careful and he didn't touch it blah blah blah.

I informed him that I know he did because not only did I watch him do it but I felt my car move! He continued to deny it and the whole time he was standing next to my car in front of where the door ding would be as if he was trying to hide it. I literally had to tell him to move so I can check it and then told him that if there was a single mark he would be paying for it. He started giving me a lot of attitude when I told him that but finally he moved. I checked and then looked at his door panels. He had the rubber things on the door so it wouldn't ding but they were all scratched up as if he normally hits cars just because he has them.

He gave me an I told you so look and I just started telling him how he shouldn't be going around hitting cars, if it isn't his property he shouldn't touch it. It's rude and disrespectful and as a grown man he should know that.

When he left I got in my car and my bf was still on the phone lol. He knew I was upset so he came straight over. Later he told me how he didn't know I can be like that, have a way of sounding like i'm chastising a child when i'm talking to a man, and that it was hilarious. I honestly didn't know I was even talking to him like that, I was just so incredibly mad I was trying not to flip out and slap him in the face.

It really makes me angry when people just don't care about others personal property. To me if you damage someone's car it's like you're hurting that person. You're property is an extension of yourself and people should have respect for that. And to lie after doing something is just asinine.

I'm sure you ladies have some stories of people being complete a-holes so let's hear them!

[shefledthescene]

I wish I could be so lucky to catch the person in the act. When I went on vacation 2 years ago someone parked next to me in the hotel parking lot and must have scraped their luggage across the side of my car. I had a 12" scratch. I also now have 4-5 decent sized door dings.

People need to pay attention. Just because you don't care about your property doesn't mean you can ruin others

[subiemommy]

It would've taken a lot for me not to flip out! I once came out from getting a hair cut to one of the stylists leaning on my car. She was looking right at me as I started walking over and it took me unlocking my car for her to realize why she was getting the stink eye. Lucky for her I had a child in my arms or it wold've been on! And more recently I was sitting in my car at McDonald's when my car bounced from behind, like someone dropped something on my trunk or pushed it down. I looked into my rearview mirror and there were 2 people there that were going over paperwork on the trunk of my car. I revved my engine cuz yes my car was running and they somehow didn't notice the running car or the 2 people in it. I do not understand how people can do that. Come on, where is the common courtiousy and common sense these days?! I really hate socioty sometimes.
Glad there were no dings, but it's still shitty!

[PinkTWRX]

Not my current car... but my one of previous cars...

I was coming out of work and of course I had to park in the back of the lot cause we weren't allowed to park near the doors cause that was customer parking...

there were some kids skateboarding near my car and bothered me how close they were getting to my car. I couldn't see if they were touching my car cause I was too far away... so I just hit the panic button to set off my alarm.

they FLIPPED out. and went off on me saying I didn't have to do that they weren't touching my car "blah blah blah"

I proceeded to tell them they were not to be skating in the parking lot and that I was the Assistant Operations Manager of the store and that I was also calling the Store manager and the police.

I never saw them in the parking lot again.

[Superwomanchick]

This is the first time i've ever caught someone door dinging me. Usually people are more sneaky about it lol. April I can't believe they would do that with your car running! I would've probably reversed a little.

[KatieO]

I tried to post in here earlier and my computer/internet or something tweaked out.

I had the same thing happen to me.
I was sitting in my old Outback on the phone and some dumb woman pulled up next to me, got out, and opened/slammed the passenger side door into my driver door hard enough that my car shook.
I was sooooo angry, I asked her WTH she was doing, she denied hitting me, to which I asked her if she was f'ing insane. Her door hit the molding so there was no damage, which she was lucky for because I was ready to call the cops on her. :mad:

I hate people like that. Whenever I'm sitting in a parked car I always watch to make sure people don't hit it. I have no problem telling people they are stupid/shouldn't have done that.

[mmred08sti]

Well lots of people touch my cars...when they are dusty and try to rub the dust off with their fingers...Thats a big no no. They dont understand either when i yell at them for scratching my car...Wow...Seriously comon sense...Or sometimes i catch people leaning on my cars...(Great especially if they have botton flap pockets on their jeans) I yell at them again....Yet they still dont understand whats wrong with it.
In High School, my friend was meeting me at the local grocery store...I was already there and she pulled up next to me in her car...She had like an 88 BMW..I had just got my first car..My beloved Acura Integra...She pulled up next to me and swung her door open right into my cars door...I was like SERIOUSLY DID U JUST DING MY CAR??? She knew i was furious so she was like "okkkkkk I'm gonna go now" I was soooo pissed..But she was my BF and i had to forgive her at some point!

[MissVenezuela85]

That sucks.... I a sorry that happened to you. I saw someone do that to my old car so when they walked off to the store I hit their door with my club...

My old car had so many door dings. I parked at the end of the walmart lot on an empty day and somehow a mini van and big ass truck managed to find me and both dinged my doors... so frustrating.

Oh and my husbands WRX has a huge gash on the door from some vandals (unknown who they were). They came around at night when he first bought the car and took a stab at his door... they said it would be 600 to replace the door so he never got it fixed. It's o nthe to do when he mods his car body (STI hoodscoop, STI side splitters and side skirts)

[MissVenezuela85]

Well lots of people touch my cars...when they are dusty and try to rub the dust off with their fingers...Thats a big no no. They dont understand either when i yell at them for scratching my car...Wow...Seriously comon sense...Or sometimes i catch people leaning on my cars...(Great especially if they have botton flap pockets on their jeans) I yell at them again....Yet they still dont understand whats wrong with it.
In High School, my friend was meeting me at the local grocery store...I was already there and she pulled up next to me in her car...She had like an 88 BMW..I had just got my first car..My beloved Acura Integra...She pulled up next to me and swung her door open right into my cars door...I was like SERIOUSLY DID U JUST DING MY CAR??? She knew i was furious so she was like "okkkkkk I'm gonna go now" I was soooo pissed..But she was my BF and i had to forgive her at some point!

Best Friends dont ding your car... not a best friend...

[ksubi]

my idiot cousin drug her luggage outta my trunk yesterday and scratched my bumper :mad: :unamused: :mad:

shes inconsiderate of everything

:mad: :mad:

[MissVenezuela85]

my idiot cousin drug her luggage outta my trunk yesterday and scratched my bumper :mad: :unamused: :mad:

shes inconsiderate of everything

:mad: :mad:

disown ur cousin lol

[ksubi]

after the weekend I just had with her, I'm about to.

[mmred08sti]

Best Friends dont ding your car... not a best friend...

I know that...But when a best friend isn't a car enthusiast or loves taking care of a car like i did....They dont really understand it. So it was hard to be soo mad. But yeah i understand what your saying..I was a little more leniant back then....Now i will go bizzurk. :devil:

[Superwomanchick]

I know that...But when a best friend isn't a car enthusiast or loves taking care of a car like i did....They dont really understand it. So it was hard to be soo mad. But yeah i understand what your saying..I was a little more leniant back then....Now i will go bizzurk. :devil:

A lot of my friends aren't car enthusiasts either, so when they're explaining things they make references about subarus like I can't understand if it isn't explained in car talk :rolleyes: I'm just as girly as any other girl lol.

[AKLGT]

One of my best friends doesn't understand either. She puts her feet on my dash board, slams the door, etc. On my Leggy I don't care as much but when I had my STI or drive the GTR, I give everyone the car entry/exit spiel. Be respectful or you will pay to fix it! If u want stick ur feet on ur own dash, go ahead, but its my car. If u don't want to respect my rules, then take the bus, bike or walk.

[Sugarpie]

Apparently I'm an evil ***** when it comes to my cars. My friends and family ask me, "Can I drink in here? Is it okay if I eat in here? We'll take my car so you don't freak out about parking. No Dawn, I don't mind walking..." I'm actually pretty laid back with the Subie. I was with my Z too. All this anxiety is courtesy of a Honda Civic SI that I sold 2.5 years ago. Lol.

Don't even get me started on door dings..... I haven't spotted someone doing one to my car since some hag opened her truck door up onto my '98 ZX2 in '98. It left a dent bigger than my hand. She glared at me when I confronted her about it and said, "Do something about it." So in my immature temper (I was 22) I kicked my passenger door into her red Explorer which left the mother of all dents and said, "do something about it." She drove off.

[Khanh]

after the weekend I just had with her, I'm about to.

:lol::lol:


Daawwww be nicee..

[Khanh]

I caught a kid kicking in the door on my 4Runner in high school. He too gave me the "do something about it" line. It took EVERYTHING in me to walk away. He called me a pussy, naturally.

Except multiple teachers witnessed it, multiple class officers witnessed it, it was caught on surveillance. I knew that, and thats why I walked away.

He ended up getting a year's worth of jailtime and was ordered to pay back my deductible, my insurance company for the rest of the body shop bill ($2500!!!!). I smiled at him in court.

My car used to spit fireballs on a cold start. Everytime I caught someone leaning against the trunk, I would remote start it. :devil:

After a crazy night out, girl I was dating at the time couldnt get the door open fast enough to puke. Course I had to clean it up after putting her in bed. Next day at work I had to leave the windows down. (I parked like 25' from the Drive Thru window so I could keep an eye on it.) Someone walked up to it, leaned inside and started looking around. Thats where the remote window module went to work. :lol:

My dad hit my car with one of our lawn mowers. :(

[Pearl07STI]

back in high school i was eating lunch in my car in the backseat with my gf and all of a sudden i hear a *thud* and noticed the guy to the left of me opened his gf's car door and hit my car, and i saw him lookin around like it didn't happen. I poked my head out the door and gave it to him. A few years later I ended up working at the same les schwab as him... still gave him crap for it too

[MoN]

Yesterday as I was pulling into the Grocery store, I found a nice parking spot next to a curb, that would ensure I could keep at least one stupid driver away from door dinging my car. So I pulled forward and to the left of the spot to reverse into it. Some D-BAG in a Kia Sorento in his late 50's decided to squeeze his ass in my spot right behind me!!!!! Mind you, there are about 10 other parking spots in this immediate area. So I stayed in that exact position w/ my reverse lights on just glaring at him, and as he got outta the car and walked by I thanked him very loudly for being such a kind man.... (extremely sarcastically of course). And he just looked at me with an I dont give a shit kinda look, and began walking faster into the store... lol.

So thennnnn, Im in line waiting at the Deli, and here comes D-Bag... He stands right next to me, and about 4 people later its my turn to go and D-bag tried to cut infront of me again, I bursted out "oh hell no not again. I was next in line, Sir!" He just looked at me and rolled his freaking eyes.

He was just being a d*ck all together. People can just be such assholes in general and have no respect for others at all. Pisses me off too....

[Superwomanchick]

Sugarpie, if a girl did that and told me that I would not be able to control my temper. That is just ridiculous, when I see people like that I get this urge to wrap my hands around their neck and shake them until they start to drool lol.

Mon, I had a woman who cut in front of me in line at a frozen yogurt place, the guy took care of her but the whole time I was just going off on how she was a bitch, how she isn't better than anyone else, how she can be a parent and not teach her kids manner. . . for about 2 minutes looking straight at her and talking loudly. When I went to pay for mine the cashier told me she had done it earlier as well. We walked out and I made eye contact with her and told her she didn't have any manners. . . and other things lol.

A lot of the time people don't even say anything when stuff like this happens and I think it teaches those people that it's ok for them to do it, they're like little kids, need to know there are repercussions to their actions lol. I used to do nice gestures on a daily basis before I started working, then I realized how people are rude most of the time. So i'm only nice to people who I notice are polite to others around them.

[WhtRexGrl]

^ it must be hard being you...so much anger and bad things that seem to happen to you :lol: Take a breath and relax...life is to short and you might give yourself a heart attack - don't sweat the small stuff ya know! So she was rude and cut, giving her crap about it for 2 min and then telling her off with or without her kids doesnt make you any better....in fact it makes you look worse because your acting like the line police. Even if it is rude - I agree.

I had the displeasure of having contact with the woman with no insurance that rear ended me. After taking her to court and many no shows no pays...you gotta just say - what the hell...it's only a car! Otherwise negativity starts to take over and your stuck with an ulcer.

[MoN]

^ Aw Christine, you're so positive and passive. I need to learn more of this from you. I get so worked up over everything and its true we shouldnt sweat the small stuff, it'll cause wrinkles early in life....

[Superwomanchick]

^ it must be hard being you...so much anger and bad things that seem to happen to you :lol: Take a breath and relax...life is to short and you might give yourself a heart attack - don't sweat the small stuff ya know! So she was rude and cut, giving her crap about it for 2 min and then telling her off with or without her kids doesnt make you any better....in fact it makes you look worse because your acting like the line police. Even if it is rude - I agree.

I had the displeasure of having contact with the woman with no insurance that rear ended me. After taking her to court and many no shows no pays...you gotta just say - what the hell...it's only a car! Otherwise negativity starts to take over and your stuck with an ulcer.

I disagree, I live in a smaller city and people here are incredibly rude. In my opinion if you stop and let something go things will never change. Maybe because of me she might think again before she does something like that. And when it comes to your car, you pay for it, it's money. It costs you money when people door ding it or don't have insurance etc. There's no way i'm going to pay to get a door ding out because of someone else. I also refuse to pay a deductible if it isn't my fault. $500 isn't just spare change for me, $60 to get out a ding isn't spare change either. I'm perfectly relaxed, but i'm not the kind of person that just sees people doing stupid rude things and lets it slide.

Whether people like it or not society has rules, rules that you follow so we don't fall apart and kill each other. Being rude or disrespectful isn't socially accepted anymore, it used to get you what you wanted but not anymore. Some people haven't learned that yet.

[WhtRexGrl]

^ yes but what you did was also rude - and doesnt make you any better was my point. I'm sure that it was annoying but really is it worth all of this over getting your frozen yogurt first??
I agree about paying to have your car fixed but a door ding is a door ding, it sucks but hardly worth putting it through your insurance and paying a deductible. I love my car and was bummed out but seriously, it's a car a mode of transportation, a way to get from A to B.

[PinkTWRX]

Mon, I had a woman who cut in front of me in line at a frozen yogurt place, the guy took care of her but the whole time I was just going off on how she was a bitch, how she isn't better than anyone else, how she can be a parent and not teach her kids manner. . . for about 2 minutes looking straight at her and talking loudly. When I went to pay for mine the cashier told me she had done it earlier as well. We walked out and I made eye contact with her and told her she didn't have any manners. . . and other things lol.
.

When I worked in retail and people cut in line I would be the bitch cashier would say. "I'm sorry he/she was next and make the person go the back of the line." I don't care if you complain to my manager. You were in the wrong.

Besides. In my case 9/10 I was the supervisor anyway. :devil:

[Superwomanchick]

Whtrexgrl, I think there is a big difference when you're sticking up for yourself vs being rude just to be rude. If she had said she was in a hurry or something I would have had no problem letting her go first but she acted like she automatically had the right to do so. If someone cuts in front of me and acts like they have the right to I will say something, I don't care if they think they're better because they have more money, they're older, or any other reason. It's rude and I will let them know that it is. If you let it slide in my opinion you are asking for more people to disrespect you. People don't change when they get older. It's just like when you were a kid in school. The bullies will still be bullies unless you do something about it. I'm an idealist, i'm not going to just ignore someone when they're being mean or rude. Simple.

Pinktwrx, I wish I could do that at work, i've had people totally cut in front of a few people and it confuses me why people don't say something. Just the other day a man forgot his cup and I was trying to get his attention, an older man in line tapped him on the shoulder and the man turned around and was going to hit the guy who was just trying to do something nice.

[WhtRexGrl]

I think you go out of your way to get involved in altercations...I have seen it in multiple threads you have started. I think it is because of your age.
It's rude to talk loudly about it for 2 min and then stalk the lady and make eye contact with her and bitch her out. When you get to be older and more mature you will figure out that it is easier to take the high road instead of trying to be the line police and right the wrongs of frozen yogurt lines in your small town :lol:

[Superwomanchick]

I think you go out of your way to get involved in altercations...I have seen it in multiple threads you have started. I think it is because of your age.
It's rude to talk loudly about it for 2 min and then stalk the lady and make eye contact with her and bitch her out. When you get to be older and more mature you will figure out that it is easier to take the high road instead of trying to be the line police and right the wrongs of frozen yogurt lines in your small town :lol:

Haha nice, I don't make accusations about you so I expect that same for me. I post threads to vent sometimes, most people do. Everyone has a way of venting their anger so they don't go crazy. I didn't "stalk" her. I passed her on the way out and she was looking at me. I told her she doesn't have manners. Completely true statement, you weren't there so you can't exactly tell me what I did. I never went out of my way, she just happened to be in my way, that's different. Also I never said I was the line police, but it's common sense to know it's rude to cut. Honestly, it frustrates me when people use age as an excuse, most of the rude people out there are older. So tell me, does that make them more mature? Not in my opinion. Some people are passive and some are not, you happen to be passive, and I happen to not be. It doesn't make you more mature than me. We just handle things differently.

And out of the 27 threads i've made in the 2 years i've been on here, 4 are negative. I don't think that's too bad of a percentage.

[Khanh]

WTF is going on in here? :lol:

[WhtRexGrl]

I'm not posting rant threads in OT, you are so if we can all agree that you may not like my opinion but you put yourself out there so I'm entitled to comment.
I'm not at all passive but I am however older and have more control over my emotions and my mouth. I'm just saying don't let the small stuff ruin your day - that's all.

[MoN]

:popcorn:

[Khanh]

Share me some mon!

[ImprezaRose]

My husband brought his car to a Subaru dealer to have his wheel bearings replaced. This was when he had a 96 Impreza Brighton (with a fully modified suspension) he had a black out stereo headunit and a sub and amp in the trunk. The sub was a phoenix so not really all that cheap. Anyway he dropped it off Wednesday night and expected to hear from them Thursday saying it was done. He never heard from them so on friday he called them and they said that it had been done Thursday which ticked him off. We get there and they try to charge him twice what they had quoted. After arguing for a few minutes they finally agreed to the price they quoted him and we left. We get to the car and all I hear is my husband swear so I look in the car.

The dash had been pretty much destroyed when the headunit was ripped out.....I told him to pop the trunk, the sub and amp were both gone. Now the sub box was bolted via a bracket to the sway bar in the back....they pulled so hard trying to get the box out that they bent the brackets before finally ripping them free of the box. We went in and told the dealer and they called the cops but pretty much the dealer told us to call our insurance company. They didn't give us anything for it. They actually said they tell people to remove anything expensive from the car....ya like im going to remove the headunit and amp and sub every time I have to bring my car to the dealer. They left the car out all night AND left it unlock. You trybto tell me that isn't negligent on their part! Everyone in the dealership was pretty serious except for this kid with a smug ass look on his face. Im pretty sure he was the on who stole the stuff. They wouldn't give us the security tape either because they said they looked over it and the only person that came in the lot was someone they knew. My theory is why would someone pick an old 96 impreza Brighton to steal a stereo from when there are brand new cars on the lot? Also it was a black out head unit you couldn't even tell it was there in the dark and how would they have known there was an amp? It just all smells like an inside job to me.

Anyway.....whenever we go anywhere aaron always parks way out where there are no cars and by the time we co/e out there's always a car on either side. We also park the cars where we can possibly see them when at restaurant and if we saw someone door ding the car aaron would be out there in seconds asking for insurance paperwork. His cars are his baby.

[Luinbariel]

That really sucks, I'm sorry to hear that happened, Rose. Did you guys ever legally pursue that, aside from calling the cops?

We haven't had anything that shitty happen with our dealership here yet, but it doesn't have a good reputation, either. It has been dubbed "The Stealership" and I suppose that might work in your case as well...

[MissVenezuela85]

Thats ridiculous. What about filing a complaint with the BBB or SOA?

[Superwomanchick]

That's a lawsuit waiting to happen, you should call soa and the better business bureau.

[ksubi]

:lol::lol:


Daawwww be nicee..


what is this "nice" word you use? not in my dictionary... hmmm

[RaiTay]

Apparently some losers went through my neighborhood and keyed and dented everyone's car sitting outside except mine and my grandma's.

Win?...YES :p

[Joslin Rae]

I had a 2008 Chevy Cobalt before my Subi. I went to the mall one day and parked in the parking garage next to this white minivan. When I came out to leave, the minivan was gone, but it left 2 nice door dings on the front and back passenger side doors.... white paint in the dings and all.... UGH!

[djmatao]

I had an encounter the other day that infuriated me and it made me think that i'm sure this kind of thing happens a lot. When people completely disrespect your car.

I was sitting in a grocery store parking lot talking to my bf. I was already upset because some creepy guys were following me but I had lost them. I always park away from other cars because I don't like door dings.

So i'm sitting there and I see this older man pull up next to me in an 80's mercedes wagon. I'm watching him in my side mirror when I see him swing his door out with such force it shook my car. I won't lie my vision got a little red after that. I get out and ask him if he really just door dinged my car. He started to tell me he was careful and he didn't touch it blah blah blah.

I informed him that I know he did because not only did I watch him do it but I felt my car move! He continued to deny it and the whole time he was standing next to my car in front of where the door ding would be as if he was trying to hide it. I literally had to tell him to move so I can check it and then told him that if there was a single mark he would be paying for it. He started giving me a lot of attitude when I told him that but finally he moved. I checked and then looked at his door panels. He had the rubber things on the door so it wouldn't ding but they were all scratched up as if he normally hits cars just because he has them.

He gave me an I told you so look and I just started telling him how he shouldn't be going around hitting cars, if it isn't his property he shouldn't touch it. It's rude and disrespectful and as a grown man he should know that.

When he left I got in my car and my bf was still on the phone lol. He knew I was upset so he came straight over. Later he told me how he didn't know I can be like that, have a way of sounding like i'm chastising a child when i'm talking to a man, and that it was hilarious. I honestly didn't know I was even talking to him like that, I was just so incredibly mad I was trying not to flip out and slap him in the face.

It really makes me angry when people just don't care about others personal property. To me if you damage someone's car it's like you're hurting that person. You're property is an extension of yourself and people should have respect for that. And to lie after doing something is just asinine.

I'm sure you ladies have some stories of people being complete a-holes so let's hear them!

Damn, sorry for all that.... this is the exact reason I park away from people as well and try never ever to park in a compact space either, people are just inconsiderate with other peoples cars, especially if they drive a beater or just any other crap car