What to do

[bannerd]

I'm a dude of course, I met this girl the other day and we have been talking. I've been looking for a girl to hook up with and I've been balls to the wall just walking up to girls and trying to get to know them. Anyways I met this girl and we are starting to hit it off (I think). She told me she is in a relationship with a guy already.

I honestly just want to be her friend because I'm sure she has friends that she can hook me up with. I don't want to get between her and her b/f. The problem is we've been running into each other for years and I've never said a word to her. I know this because she had a really cool car that I remember and she was telling me about it and a light bulb came on. I always wanted to ask her out and it was one of those things that went away and I've been regretting it. Now it's back to bite me in the ass a few years later. The odd thing is I forgot what she looked like because it has been so long.

What do you all think I should do?

[Superwomanchick]

Back off, she's got a man.

[bannerd]

Back off, she's got a man.

Yeah I guess.

[buniboo]

Back off, she's got a man.

I agree with this. There are plenty of girls out there.

[jessickascarling]

i'm going to come at this from a different POV...

i was with someone else before dan & i met. he never did anything to make me ditch the ex, but i wasn't happy in that relationship and knew i would be much happier with dan. how does she feel about her current relationship? if she doesn't want to be with him anyway, then hang around as a friend without trying to force the break up and if it happens, it happens. they can't all work out the way mine and dan's relationship did... either way, you can still end up a good friend.

[xxthat girlxx]

^There's a difference between getting between her and the other guy and just being around/yourself and her realizing she'd be better with you.

Ask her to introduce you to her friends to hold you over.

[im_so_blue]

Back off, she's got a man.

sadly i agree with this notion as i am a dude too

i should be going "aww bro go after her" but i learned my lesson a year ago and sucks major ass when you get let down :(

[bannerd]

i'm going to come at this from a different POV...

i was with someone else before dan & i met. he never did anything to make me ditch the ex, but i wasn't happy in that relationship and knew i would be much happier with dan. how does she feel about her current relationship? if she doesn't want to be with him anyway, then hang around as a friend without trying to force the break up and if it happens, it happens. they can't all work out the way mine and dan's relationship did... either way, you can still end up a good friend.


Yeah that is what I'm doing, there is no reason why we can't be civil and just be friends. She's pretty cool, she's been with her man for two years but she doesn't really talk a lot about him. When I bring him up she ponders to something else. Either way the entire point is just to meet with her, her friends and just see what turns up. If I just throw it away my chances will plummet.

[Brumble]

just be her friend. dont force anything. and unless you're close friends with her... which it sounds like you're not... try and hang out with her in large groups... if there are some feelings between you 2 they're more likely to come out while you're alone... in which case it can cross a line of cheating rather quickly. there's no reason why you can't be friends with girls, my best friend is a girl.